Dating Advice for Men

Derrick McQueen
3 min readSep 16, 2022
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In the short read on dating, — “Christian Dating Advice for Men” — there are many insights and powerful wisdom for anyone to follow. So, I have decided to share some of the book briefly here on Medium. This is part one of five.

Hear me out ladies and gents because I was once and still do battle the know it all syndrome. Ponder this bible verse

“Whoever trusts in his own mind is a fool, but he who walks in wisdom will be delivered.”

Proverbs 28:26 ESV

That Proverb sums up my previous foolish behaviors and thoughts about finding a spouse. Also, it makes clear that my mind is to not be trusted. I don’t know it all!

So here we are. Ladies and Gentlemen you may need a little direction and coaching mixed with encouragement in dating in the new digital era and that’s okay.

As for me briefly, I was a guy who always looked at the outside appearance of a woman. I gave it the most weight in evaluating that person for a potential relationship. The lady had to have a specific skin tone, height, and hair length. These were shallow criteria as you can discern. Another whack perspective I had was that sex had to be off the charts; the truth is, we shouldn’t be having sex before marriage anyway. I cringe as I recall all my old views that missed the point. My worldview was fueled by the lust of the eyes and flesh. People in relationships on this level only really use each other.

Magazines and videos filled my mind with how they wanted me to think about the opposite sex. I was in turn shackled for paying attention, chained deep with others' perspectives not my own better yet not the Universes. Not God’s wisdom. I was being filled, like a dumpster, with trash, not truth and wisdom.

Work on Yourself — What do you have to bring to the table?

The first step is to work on yourself. Become aware of yourself, your soul, your inner life, and your thoughts, plus keep an eye on your actions.

“The major key to your better future is you.”

Jim Rohn

First, identify your strengths and weaknesses. Focus on adding to your power. Strive to eradicate your liabilities, such as addictions, procrastination…



Derrick McQueen

Believer~Husband to Kali~Father to Imani~ Writer. Author ~ Christian Dating Advice for Men on Amazon. Visit me at my internet home —